When people want plastic surgery, there’s a very small group they’re willing to tell — and it’s not their Facebook friends. RealSelf asked more than 900 people actively researching a cosmetic surgery like a breast augmentation or a nose job how willing they are to inform certain friends and family of what they want done.

Who People Aren't Willing to Tell About Their Plastic Surgery

To Post or Not to Post?

People are most unwilling to talk about their surgery on Facebook and other social networks. Three-quarters said there’s no way they’d post that kind of news. In fact, more people are willing to tell their kids about their surgery than they are to talk about it online.

So, About That PTO…

Your co-workers might be lying about that two-week vacation they just booked. Nearly 60% of respondents said they’re unwilling to tell co-workers they want a cosmetic surgery.

More Likely to Tell Friends Than Family

Friends make the cut more often than family; 76% of respondents said they’d discuss their surgery with friends, compared to 68% who said the same of adult family members.

Telling the Kids

Plastic surgery may not be as taboo a topic at the dinner table as you might figure. More than 60% said they’d tell their kids with 31% saying they’re very willing to do so.

Saying “I Do” to Plastic Surgery

People are most willing to tell their spouses or partners; 88% said they’d clue in their significant other. It makes sense — somebody’s got to drive you to the hospital, right? — and shows stories like this one from CNN are the exception rather than the rule.

So what’s this prove? That people assume others will judge them negatively if they “admit” to plastic surgery. It’s not an unfounded fear. Look no further than the latest tabloid mocking a celebrity’s “botched” facelift for proof of the stereotypes people are up against.

But having surgery, elective or otherwise, is a private medical choice and should be treated with due respect. Understanding this means hearing stories from real people — stories, as RealSelf data shows, that always come back to one thing: confidence.

Interested in learning more about any of these procedures? Ask a doctor